Fostering Resiliency in Children
There has been a lot of talk about resilience and how important it is for the health and wellness of our children, families, and communities.
It is often said that ‘children are resilient’, and this is true, but what is not typically discussed are the factors that contribute to resilience. Simply put, resiliency is the ability to bounce back, manage adversity, and heal and learn from stressors.
Phillip A. Fisher from the University of Oregon Social Learning Center describes resilience as “The counter balancing of difficult things that may exist in a child’s life with the positive things that occur within the family and even positive things that may exist in the community.”
Positive interactions at home, school, and in the community help children to build confidence, feel in control, reduce stress, improve self-regulation, and develop prosocial character traits.
Positive interactions include:
- Snuggling
- Reading
- Going on a walk
- Watching TV
- Noticing a difference in emotion (whether positive or negative)
- Talking about day to day experiences
- Cooking/baking together
- Doing arts and crafts, and more
As an adult, try to be aware of how you are responding to day to day and more significant stressors. When adults respond to stressors calmly, they are modeling composure, and in the future when there is a stressful event, the child will have tools to manage stress. If your family has recently experienced toxic stressors, and you are concerned with how your child is coping, do not hesitate to reach out to your primary care provider, or make an appointment with the behavioral health team!
Check out this video: 7 C's of Resilience
Hannah Bullar, MA, LPCC
Pediatric Associates of Northern Kentucky

